Once you reach FIFTY you start to look at life a bit differently. You start to think about your mortality a bit more.. One day as I was sitting at my dining room table thinking about what I wanted my girls to dress me in when that time came (that only lasted for about 5 minutes) and I got to thinking about all the things I would want to leave in a letter to them once I died. But then I realized that I was not in a hurry to leave this earth and decided why should I wait until I am no longer around to see them to tell them some things I wanted them to know. So I sent the letters out by US mail.
At first I felt a little corny for writing them a letter but once they expressed their feelings after reading the letter (after asking me if I was dying fifty million times) I felt it was well worth it.
I am quite sure they will not mind me sharing it with you since I took all the really personal stuff out....lol. Hopefully you will be inspired to write a letter to your offspring or family member sharing your heart with them as only you can.
Feel free to leave comments, I love to hear from you.
April 1, 2009
A Letter to my daughters,
If I could change things I would. Sorry I can’t. Please forgive me for being so hung up on
being a good wife and perfect mother that I forgot about who I was.
Promise me that you will never forget about who
you are. You are a very intelligent,
fast thinking, honorable woman and never let anyone tell you otherwise.
You are never to forget who you are or where you
came from. We are a proud people; we
come from a long line of proud people.
Even though we are a mixed group, we have never been separate even when
we argue or disagree, we are still one family.
I have been thinking about you lately, I am not
sure in what direction life is going to go , but I wanted you to know that I
love and will always love you for your individual personality. I see you as strong, peaceful, mighty,
humble, loving, encouraging and mysterious. Now it will be up to you to decide how many of
those attributes you feel belong to you, according to how you see yourself.
It is so easy for us to say “oh that belongs to so
and so and that to so and so”. But who
are you? What do you want to become or be? Where do you see life taking you? Who will you change or bring up in the world?
You and only you can decide. Remember
yourself, don’t get lost in someone else, “Be free to be me” should be your
motto.
Promise me and yourself right now that you will
strive to be the person our God intended for you to be. Don’t get sidetracked but if you do or have,
get back on track.
Life is too short, time has and will continue to
past by all of us if we don’t watch out.
Check yourself. Move on, forgive,
endure, and exchange your inward doubt for something useful. Be cute every day. Wear clean hearts (you thought
I was going to say underwear huh) all the time.
Reach your hand and hearts out to your family and
others, you will and do need each other more than you realize right now. Trust me I know.
Take care of your body, go to the doctor
regularly, please get regular checkups, and don’t wait until it’s too late.
I Love you,
Mommy
P.S. It’s never
too late to enjoy your Second Chance…(Cassie Davis) I am.
April
1, 2010
Well
I made it another year, how grateful I am. I have watched you guys over the last year
and thought to myself if I were not here would I, if I could, be pleased, pretty
much. Paragraph seven from the last letter can be worked on a
little harder, suggestion set a day a week or every two weeks to talk to your siblings ,
it gets harder as you get older to get into this habit, trust me I know…..just
a thought …………… Anyway I would like to add a few other thoughts…
Start
working on your passion…start now! writing,
singing, sewing, painting, cooking, doing hair, helping others help themselves, going to
school, purchasing property, whatever it is start while you are
young…..Young is your age.
Whenever
possible travel , I know from experience that traveling with
children can be a bit difficult, but take a shot at it, even if you have to do
it together for support ) even if it is within the same state , try and do it
at least once a year. It doesn’t have to
cost a whole lot….plan it out. Try and
get use to going without me, even though I love to spend time (sometimes) with
all of you. You need to connect with one
another.
The
other thing is save some money you all have the plan along with the pact to not
tell anyone else until I patent it and that is going to happen real soon. But I have worked on that plan for a lot of years;
Use it because you are going to reap the benefits once it hits the market, even
before I Kick the bucket.
I love you more than you can even think or
imagine! My relationship with each of
you is unique, and I thank God for making you just the way He knew I would need
you to be.
Communicate with your father he enjoys
hearing from you by text or a call.
Love Mommy
P.s. It’s never to late to enjoy your Second
Chance….Cassie Davis
I am.
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